my take on problem solving
I love when wonderful things sprout from serious talks with friends. Who would have thought that I'd come up with such a wonderful metaphor for LIFE from a simple text conversation? I have discovered my new metaphor for describing the way, that I believe, is the best to deal with the crap in our lives. For clarification, when I say "crap" I mean, quite literally, anything that causes negative feelings to reciprocate within ourselves and that are caused by ourselves; guilt, self-doubt, insecurity, disappointment, resentment, anger, depression....and other feelings filed under the category of 'feelings not wanted to be had'.
Here's the thing. When liv is faced with any kind of issues as named above, she quickly and effortlessly dumps them on the soul in closest proximity to her, seeking knowledge, advice, choice...etc. I've got no shame, I'm ready to admit right away that I feel X and am searching for a way to solve it (and not by applying Pythagoras' theorum).
What I don't get, is when people will hold this stuff all inside of their minds, hearts and souls, to entirely deal with all alone because they dread putting pressure on other people, looking weak, feeling like it's not worth someone else's time or other various lame sauce excuses. They would rather let these feelings sit at a soft simmer on the backburner of their minds bubbling away and condensing into a solidified mass of gooey horribleness that no one wants to clean up after. It makes NONE of the sense to me. Why carry such a heavy feeling and hide within your skin when opportunity arises to blurt out "HELP ME!" to the nearest passer-by?
SO! I've come up with a metaphor. A way to describe this to people who need the violent shove to allow themselves to be vulnerable, be weak and be ready to lean on someone else to deal with emotional craphoods. Because, it's totally okay to do this! So here's my metaphor for the ones that choose to hug their problems deep inside and surround themselves mentally with the black smoke that is their negative thoughts. And since we're already on the topic of crap, this seems fitting.
Concerns.....are like crap. They are formed within us and build up inside, deep in our guts where they sit and become hard and disgusting things. Now, imagine that you've decided to plug yourself up and keep it all in to deal with alone. That crap isn't going anywhere! So now this mess is continually building up inside your body, when it definitely doesn't belong there for that long. It's easy to imagine that nothing good will come of this, it's just going to become worse and more uncomfortable as the minutes tick by as you sit alone feeling crampy and well, crappy. So! Why not just let it out? Ease your discomfort and let GO and give in to the pressure and just GET.IT.OUT.ALREADY! Because no one ever truly enjoys the actual process of letting out crap, but damn do you feel great after! And heck, once it's over, you have the opportunity to finally look back down at it and say "WOW!....did THAT really come out of me?!"
To summarize: Feeling emotionally crappy? Grab a friend and get ready to spill it. Because it's not how you feel now or what comes out of you that defines you, but how you look back on your crap and say "I made that? Well I'm certainly changing my emotional diet because I'm not sure I want to experience that again!"
Give in to being vulnerable and looking weak. Speak your crap and feel better when it's over.
Besides, who wants to sit around with shit inside of them for months?!
Here's the thing. When liv is faced with any kind of issues as named above, she quickly and effortlessly dumps them on the soul in closest proximity to her, seeking knowledge, advice, choice...etc. I've got no shame, I'm ready to admit right away that I feel X and am searching for a way to solve it (and not by applying Pythagoras' theorum).
What I don't get, is when people will hold this stuff all inside of their minds, hearts and souls, to entirely deal with all alone because they dread putting pressure on other people, looking weak, feeling like it's not worth someone else's time or other various lame sauce excuses. They would rather let these feelings sit at a soft simmer on the backburner of their minds bubbling away and condensing into a solidified mass of gooey horribleness that no one wants to clean up after. It makes NONE of the sense to me. Why carry such a heavy feeling and hide within your skin when opportunity arises to blurt out "HELP ME!" to the nearest passer-by?
SO! I've come up with a metaphor. A way to describe this to people who need the violent shove to allow themselves to be vulnerable, be weak and be ready to lean on someone else to deal with emotional craphoods. Because, it's totally okay to do this! So here's my metaphor for the ones that choose to hug their problems deep inside and surround themselves mentally with the black smoke that is their negative thoughts. And since we're already on the topic of crap, this seems fitting.
Concerns.....are like crap. They are formed within us and build up inside, deep in our guts where they sit and become hard and disgusting things. Now, imagine that you've decided to plug yourself up and keep it all in to deal with alone. That crap isn't going anywhere! So now this mess is continually building up inside your body, when it definitely doesn't belong there for that long. It's easy to imagine that nothing good will come of this, it's just going to become worse and more uncomfortable as the minutes tick by as you sit alone feeling crampy and well, crappy. So! Why not just let it out? Ease your discomfort and let GO and give in to the pressure and just GET.IT.OUT.ALREADY! Because no one ever truly enjoys the actual process of letting out crap, but damn do you feel great after! And heck, once it's over, you have the opportunity to finally look back down at it and say "WOW!....did THAT really come out of me?!"
To summarize: Feeling emotionally crappy? Grab a friend and get ready to spill it. Because it's not how you feel now or what comes out of you that defines you, but how you look back on your crap and say "I made that? Well I'm certainly changing my emotional diet because I'm not sure I want to experience that again!"
Give in to being vulnerable and looking weak. Speak your crap and feel better when it's over.
Besides, who wants to sit around with shit inside of them for months?!
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